Change is becoming one of the biggest stress in today’s life. Whether it is in personal life or professional life, people love their comfort zones fearing change and uncertainty. However the truth is that change is essence of life. There was never a time nor there would be time when change would stop. Entire universe has been designed to stay in constant flux of change – whether in form of volcanoes, quakes, giant waves or comets. Everything is spinning, moving and changing. It is only because of constant experimentation with change that humans have grown so much from being a caveman to what we are today. If the caveman would have resisted change, we would have perished millions of years ago.
While change in itself is not bad, problems in our lives start to appear when we start resisting it. Resistance to change brings fear, anxiety and ultimately depression in many cases. Resisting change is like trying to stop flow of life. The more we resist it, the worse it becomes. On the other side acceptance of change keeps us challenged and alive.
Looking at Bhagvad on ways to deal with change, Sri Krishna explains:
मात्रास्पर्शास्तु कौन्तेय शीतोष्णसुखदु: खदा: |
आगमापायिनोऽनित्यास्तांस्तितिक्षस्व भारत || 14||
mātrā-sparśhās tu kaunteya śhītoṣhṇa-sukha-duḥkha-dāḥ
āgamāpāyino ’nityās tans-titikṣhasva bhārata
The contact between the senses and the sense objects gives rise to fleeting perceptions of happiness and distress. These are non-permanent, and come and go like the winter and summer seasons. O descendent of Bharat, one must learn to tolerate them without being disturbed.
The best way to deal with change is realigning our perspectives, keep working and to take actions with best of our abilities. We should take change in stride without getting affected by it. Action with patience and equanimity is the key here. Even fiercest of summers and coldest of winters are not permanent. The best way to go through them is to adjust.
Even better is to initiate a change. We stay on the top if we initiate change before environment starts to press us into it. Gandhi created such an impact when he was pushed out of train for being brown skinned in South Africa. This was not first time when brown or black men were looked down in colonial period. Many people before Gandhi would have faced this humiliation however it was him who decided to rise against it which resulted in beginning of one of biggest non-violence revolution in India. In comparison, for many people even moving from one apartment to another few blocks away can trigger spate of resistance and anxiety.
Growth is located beyond the edge of comfort zone where change begins.
Keep calm and Keep walking!